We often assure our friends to go for a hangout, help in a project/assignment, help in studies, share our special skill sets, and lots more.Its very easy to give an commitment and equally difficult to stick to words.Most of the time we find some other work to be done at the same time, ultimately we priorities. The worst part is that unintentionally we end up in not just breaking their hearts but Crushing it in grinder (playing soft Diplomacy - I am extremely sorry dear/its always next time etc). Feel about the other person mental anxiety which you have turned in to depression(both physical and mental). The poor chap is abstained from something he/she was relishing in advance having confident in your words. Put yourself not in their shoes, but in their soul. I am sure if you are able to do so, one of the two outcomes will definitely happen -
- Amount of seriousness involved in a commitment will grow in geometric progression.
- Each one of us would make any number of adjustments to stick to our words.
This is because we will understand the feeling other person would have, if we do not adhere to our words. We just say, sorry friend i am busy, i have some other important work and many more.(There are two types of excuses - The hackneyed once called as Local Bahana. Others are the exclusive ones called as Imported Bahan.)
Each one of us would have been on both sides of the court. Play this game as a single player (i.e commit yourself a treat on fulfillment of task and after achieving that task, say its not a big one/next task is awaiting etc. - its very likely that you loose the spirit of performance).
Hitting a Smash would be difficult for you.
thanks neeraj for your gret thoughts i have always belive on you , because i always found something inspiring from you keep going dude ....
ReplyDeleteSometimes, we need to make those "local Bahanas", just to get out of some sticky situations.
ReplyDeleteBut as you said most times, its not good to keep breaking promises and hearts ;)
And i suppose more pormises a person fulfills in turn their reputations increases/becomes better.
At the same time we need to realize that there is a line of ok thickness between making promises and saying NO.
Cheers,
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